Category Archives: Random thoughts on homeschooling

Being a Single(homeschooling)Parent …

Homeschooling as a SINGLE parent.

( My take on it after 2 years)
Are there any struggles that come to mind?

Yes, some…..These might be a few….

It’s all on your shoulders.
You have to work, cook, clean, teach, be there to just listen while they have so much to say on what is so very important to them.

You have no other person that is in this with you to unload on.
You need to keep it all in order, ensure that you are in fact not failing your children….avoiding the pit of comparison of other people’s children who are heading in a TOTALLY different direction than are yours.
You have to remember one size does not fit all, and not only do you need to remember that, YOURS is the ONLY voice to remind you of that.
Feeling like if you take time for yourself, you are taking away from your kids.

MOST IMPORTANT :
Knowing that you will screw up and it’s okay…(and realizing that YOU have to tell yourself  because you don’t have a partner to remind you of this very important fact.)

There’s some humor in it all too…..

My Daughter: “ Mom, remember when I told you about that person I met in my game who homeschools too, they live in the Mountain Time Zone. Did you know that it is 3pm there right now.” ( It was 5pm at the time of this discussion).

My Response: “ Oh….she’s homeschooled? I had no idea,  I’m happy to see you have determined what time it is based on our work on time zones though.”

Daughter: “ Mom, We had a whole talk the other night when you were laying in bed about how cool it is she homeschools. We talked about lots of things that night.”

My Response: “ Was I awake?”

Parenting a 16-year-old and a 10-year-old is the most AWESOME thing in the world.

I am grateful to have them in my life.

There are times when they are both out for the night at a friend’s house and I am home alone. The first hour I am filled with the idea of having quiet “me” time.
Although, It does not last long….

By the 2nd hour I am feeling the awkward silence in our house, the stillness that comes with the lack of energy in the space. The bickering between the siblings that I have given up being the referee of. The dishes that seem to magically appear in the sink, the shoes and coats left strewn about in our tiny home. The music playing loudly from my son’s room, or the sound of his guitar. The sound of laughter from my daughter when she is skyping with friends and having so much fun. The discussions about upcoming music events, purchases that one of them want to make on-line, their plans and goals they have for the near future, their heart breaks and their feelings about things that are happening in their lives. The talks about how certain situations cause them to react or feel a certain way. Talks about life in general…….

THESE are the moments that I do in fact cherish. THESE are the moments that I know I am doing it right, a home is a home with one or two parents.

It is about providing the love, the listening, the caring.

Yes, there are times when I have worked many hours and I come home and have to listen to them unload about things that are so important to them in that moment, then have to straighten up the house a bit more than what they may have already done and right before I head to bed,

I remember……

They won’t always be here with me. I am grateful for them now.

Find your inner voice and listen.

 You can do this.

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A quiet time.

No posts have been made for the past few weeks. The reason would be because of the loss of my Father, or to my kids, Pop-Pop. It has been a hard few weeks, as well as a bit of a blur. I feel so thankful for all the time that I was given with him, towards the end especially. It was also comforting for my family as a whole to be able to spend quality time with my Dad. The kids had the chance to be with him, tell him they love him one more time. They were with great aunts and uncles that they would normally not be able to spend time with, and hear stories from days gone by.  It was a life experience that had they been sitting in school, they would have missed out on.  My Dad is ( I will always use present tense as he will never really be gone in my mind), an amazingly patient man who is always respectful of choices any one of his seven children ever made. I was never questioned by him as to why we chose to homeschool from the start ( 9 years ago). He was sure to let me know just before he passed that he was so proud of me, and that homeschooling our children was the best choice we could have ever made. It was a reassuring thing to hear from a person you admire and respect.  A borrowed quote, ” My Father didn’t tell me how to live; he lived, and let me watch him do it”. I found this just last week, and it hit home for me. He really was a man who lived his life as he wanted, and it was by watching him I have learned to live mine as I want and choose to.

I want to send kudos to an amazing Dad and an equally amazing Pop-Pop.

I know we all have our very own ( amazing Dads), and for that we should all be thankful………

Enjoy all the moments you have with your family.

The choice we have made to homeschool allows even more of the family time we all cherish.

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Photo Taken at The Mercer Museum in Doylestown PA.

A network of friends for you and your kids……

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When we started on  our homeschool journey my son was only 3  years old. I remember feeling overwhelmed and also facing a lot of questions from family members and friends that I was not confident in answering. I knew in my heart that I had to find a network of friends. I had to connect and not attempt to jump into this alone. I did all the research I could, my husband and I were okay with the choice we made, and we were not turning back no matter what doubt was cast upon us. It was full thrust all the way.

That was almost 9 years ago. It has been an amazing journey so far. The relationships that have been made and kept over all this time mean so much to us. It is a gift when you are able to have so many experiences and forge such strong friendships with people. It helps build a community that offers a much-needed security to a homeschoolers life.

If you are new, or have been homeshcooling for some time, you may or may not have a network of friends that you spend time with regularly.

I know for myself, it is something I cherish, and hold in high regard.

 Having a group of fellow homeschoolers is good therapy, and lots of fun!   

A conversation that can lead many places.

With the approach of Halloween a discussion came up the other day about haunted houses.

Here is how it went……

Around 10am the conversation began simply by me asking my almost teen son if he would like to go to a haunted house this year with his friends.

( 10:15 am) He asked what the haunted house was that was located in the city. ( Philadelphia) Which led to this “lesson” :   http://www.easternstate.org/home

( 10:30 am) After discussing the penitentiary, we started another discussion of Alcatraz.

(11:00 am) This now drew in my six-year-old, and it also led to the history of the Island, and the mystery that still surrounds the great escape.

(11:30 am) I almost finished reading about the great escape  ( we got side tracked and never finished all the pages) :  http://www.alcatrazhistory.com/rs1.htm. We also purchased the movie to watch later.

A 90 minute history lesson simply because I asked if he would like to go to a haunted house.

Never underestimate where a conversation can lead you……….( especially when you homeschool)

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A quiet week.

  Is it just me that looks at the calendar at the beginning of the month and says,

” Whoa, I have an open slot at least  three times this month”!

Knowing that  by the time that day arrives, I will be jamming two or more activities into that “empty” slot.

  We homeschool, we must be flexible, and we must always try to go with the flow.  Right?

  This week I allowed myself to NOT feel tied to my calendar, and it went rather well.  I decided to change it up a bit at the last minute. The kids were a little thrown off by this, but they handled it with ease, they did indeed go with the flow. ~ 

Although, since we attended our usual Thursday park day with friends, the daily question has resumed this evening.

“Mom, what are we doing tomorrow”? 

 Good Night~

Here is a picture from today’s park day.  It’s of the “Unsocialized” homeschool kids ( all ages) playing a game together.

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This week has been a tough one.  I have been reminded once again this past week of how thankful I am that we have chosen to homeschool. The simple reason beyond ALL others right now is the time we get with our family.  Afternoons that my son has been able to go to the driving range with his Pop-Pop. Flying kites with my Dad and children making memories. Impromptu visits just to say hi and hang out together. The visits are frequent, but may have been much less if we  had not had the flexibility that we have as homeschoolers.  It is something we tend to take for granted.

I am so thankful we follow only one schedule; the one that works best for us on any given day.

I am so thankful for my family.

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Make it a lucky day

As I sit and drink my first cup of coffee I enjoy the quietness that is still in my home at 8am.

It will all change……very soon ( today we take a visit into the city for a very cool “field trip”).

I just noticed today is Friday the 13th.  As a kid this was a day that I was always told to “watch out” for.

The funny thing is, today I am feeling very LUCKY and not a smidgen of unlucky.

I am thankful to have my kids still tucked soundly in their beds, ( starting to sound like a familiar song). I am thankful to be able to enjoy the mornings without rushing breakfast and the stress of making it on someone else’s schedule.

Today is NOT unlucky, as a matter of fact I couldn’t feel any Luckier!

Enjoy your day……..